It is estimated that a traumatic brain injury (TBI) occurs something like every 14-16 seconds in the United States. Each year we see about two million head injuries in the country which have left over three million children and adults with lifelong disabilities. And, TBI accounts for over 30% of all injury deaths in the US. [1]
But these are just statistics, numbers that often rank alongside the number of people living in poverty in a foreign land, or the number of American troops killed on any given day in the service of our country. Unless there is some personal connection, all of their stories are left behind, barely kissing the trails we leave in the wake of our busy lives.
So here is a personal statistic: ONE
ONE fall… that’s all it takes. That impact that hits someone’s head at just the right angle can leave more than a single person with a challenge no one wishes for.
ONE mistake… that’s all it takes. That day, he or she just wasn’t paying enough attention when that truck seemingly came out of nowhere.
ONE second… that’s all it takes. In that instant, the course of an entire life (and family) can change forever.
March is recognized as Brain Injury Awareness Month, but how aware are we really? We hear the facts and research about concussions and other acquired traumatic injuries, but are we as a society listening? After all, we are the same people who watched an NFL football player kill himself while the association representing all professional associations pushes for an increase in the number of required games per season. [2][3] What does it take for us to personalize and internalize the need for our vigilance when it comes to traumatic brain injury?
Let’s put a face and a story to the faceless and storyless terror we’ve come to know as TBI.
One Night
Kory Christiansen was 25 when he had the accident.
That night, on December 15, 2005, it was dark, cold, and icy. He and a friend were out getting oysters. Their car slipped on the road and went off a cliff, tumbling down to the low-tide beach below. When Kory’s father David found the car upside down on the beach… there are no words to describe the feelings of parents at that moment. Kory, who had suffered a severe head injury, was rushed to Harborview Medical Center in Seattle by helicopter.
For a month and a half, he didn’t wake up.
Over five years later, Kory is alive and busy with a full schedule. Living close to both the YMCA and the University of Puget Sound in North Tacoma, Kory attends clinics at both places multiple times per week. He also receives care at Cascade Park Active Day’s TBI program.
How did Kory and his family get from that night to today?
A Family’s Challenge
Although a good range of Kory’s mental abilities remain intact, including his vocabulary and spelling, he has left-brain paralysis and cannot speak. His comprehension faculties are fine but he responds to external stimuli slowly in forming thoughts and conveying meaning without the aid of speech. “He knows what’s going on, but life goes by so fast for him…” says his mother Kris, while his father half-jokingly comments that Kory’s memory is better than his.
It’s difficult to build and maintain relationships when there is such an impediment to communication. In some ways it is even more difficult than someone in a coma or who is catatonic because Kory is still perfectly aware of everything going on around him, and he WANTS to do things and connect with people.
Writing it down for others to see, Kory says he’s lonesome. He wants socialization and relationships. He wants everything someone without TBI could want. The challenge for Kory is how to build these connections in spite of his brain injury. The challenge for his parents is maintaining hope in what has always been presented as a hopeless situation.
Nothing is Ever Hopeless
As one might expect, David and Kris haven’t always had an easy time. Through all of the trials, from the first days at Harborview through the various care facilities and programs since, both parents have always been confronted by people telling them about the poor prospects for Kory living a long or quality life. When Kory was first at Harborview, the doctors told them that they shouldn’t expect Kory to wake up. For Kris and her husband, it was very difficult to deal with the trauma of what was happening to their son while also receiving little or no hope from those taking care of him. Both of them turned inward and to their faith for the hope they needed to persevere:
“We knew right away. We had a choice to make. The choice was, we could either get angry and upset and have it be really horrible. Or we could turn to the Lord, and we could have hope and have peace about it. Even though it’s difficult…”
But despite all initial predictions, Kory slowly began to recover. At first, his parents were happy just to see him open his eyes. Gradually, he started waking up more and more. He started following simple commands. He would smile when his parents came in the room.
Before the accident, Kory had decided he wanted to go back to school to study art. He still has a passion for it, and engages in artistic activity when he is able to. In 2010, Kory’s work was featured at the University of Washington’s Burke Museum as part of a special multimedia exhibit specifically focused on traumatic brain injury. [4]
Today Kory’s life continues to move, little by little, in the right direction. The Christensens quoted someone very wise who once said: “Never give up, Never Surrender!” [5]
It Only Takes a Moment…
A single moment can change an entire life, an entire family. TBI cannot be cured; it can only be prevented. This year, this March, you can take a moment and make the decision to educate yourself on traumatic brain injury.
TBI is much more widespread than many people think, and prevention is the only way to fight it. The keys to prevention are information and knowledge.
For those who already suffer from an acquired traumatic injury, what we can do is to continue providing critical care and resources, as well as fighting for the necessary funding, in order to help our heal our survivors.
Below are only a few of the many resources available:
*Credit to Eion Trantham at Cascade Park Communities for interviewing the family
*Thanks to the Christiansen family for their willingness to share their story
*Blessings to Kory for his spirit and will as he continues to live his life
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[1] Family Caregiver Alliance. “Selected Traumatic Brain Injury Statistics.” http://www.caregiver.org/caregiver/jsp/content_node.jsp?nodeid=441
[2] Stephanie Smith. “What will happen to former NFL player’s brain?” CNN. February 26, 2011. http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/02/26/duerson.brain.exam/index.html
[3] CBS Sports. “Union’s Concussion Committee talks 18-game schedule.” December 14, 2010. http://www.cbssports.com/nfl/story/14442521/unions-concussion-committee-talks-18game-schedule
[4] University of Washington Burke Museum. “Recreating Me: Exploring & Healing Through Creative Expression.” http://www.washington.edu/burkemuseum/exhibits/details.php?ID=91&type=online, also see personal statements
[5] Tim Allen. Galaxy Quest. Film. http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Galaxy_Quest